Scientology - Disconnection Hurts


Tuesday, 29th April, 2008 05:43:21pm

Name or Alias: Sharone Stainforth
How long ago was your disconnection? 1969
Are you a current member, an ex-member, or never a member?
Did you disconnect, or did someone disconnect from you?
1. What is (or was) your relationship to the disconnected person?
I am the daughter of the disconnected person. In which one of you disconnected - neither. It was forced upon myself as my Father was thrown out of the Sea Org and i was left stranded inside of the Sea Organization with no way of getting in touch with my Father.

2. What were the circumstances surrounding the disconnection?
As Above + My Father was sent away on a mission from the Apollo, he was supposed to be gone for 3 weeks, he never returned. After 6 months of being completely out of touch i got permission to go and join him, only to find on arrival that he had been thrown out of the Sea Org, 3 months earlier. No one would give me any information as to why he had been thrown out, i was just told he was in a condition of treason and was an SP.

3. Were you given a choice about disconnecting? Was there anything you could have done to avoid the disconnection? If so, please describe the choice involved or what you could have done. Do you now feel that you made the best decision?
There was absolutely no choice at all. He was gone and i was stranded in the Sea Org at the age of 12 years. I was told i had to accept it, they were the rules. You did not have anything to do with an SP, even if it was your own Father and he was the only family you had in the Sea Org/Scientology. There was no decision to make, it was made for me. I was in a foreign country, i had signed a billion year contract and had absolutely no rights as far as the Sea Organization were concerned.

4. Was a formal disconnection letter sent? If so, what did it say? If not, how was the disconnection communicated?
There was no letter. I was told by the Super Cargo that i was not allowed to have anything to do with my Father as he was a Suppressive Person. My Father came back to the Org because he had heard i was there, unbeknownst to me he came in the evening, i was in bed asleep. The following morning i was told he had been there, i was told he had been interagated,locked in a cupboard under the stairs and thrown out again in the early hours of the morning.No one came and got me, and when i asked why, i was told 'you know the rules', ie;hes an SP and you cannot have anything to do with him.The fact that he was my parent and only family i had in the world at that time was totally beside the point,as far as the Sea Org/ Scientology were concerned they ruled how your life was. I could have created and rebelled against what happened but if i had, i feared for what would happen to me. I had seen too many people put in lower conditions and or locked up for rebelling against Scientology rules and i was not prepared to put myself in that position. I had already been in Liability and it had had dire effects on my emotional stability.

5. In what way has the disconnection affected your life?
Disconnection has given me a life time without any family.It caused me a great deal of anguish and trauma growing up. Effectively, even though in Social Care i have brought myself up from the age of 12 years old.Its been a long , hard struggle, trying to fit in somewhere, anywhere. Its not something you just get over and get on with life. It took me years to find some kind of normality to my life and even then there have always on and off been times when i have felt emotionally unstable.

6. What were your feelings at the time about the disconnection?
I was frightened, scared, I had no one i could confide in, no one to trust, everyone in the Sea Org, these Scientologists were in another world, one i didn't want to be a part of but with no means of escape. If i showed too much emotion at my plight, i was scared i would be put in lower conditions, where no one would talk to you and you were humiliated and made to feel you were nothing. This was the world of Scientology and i hated it, they had no right to take me away from my Father, no right at all, but they did it and i could do nothing about it. The almighty God/ L . Ron Hubbard made all the rules and heaven forbid any one should challenge him. I was a little kid, i didn't stand a hope in hell.

7. What are your current feelings about the disconnection?
39 years later and it still hurts like hell. L. Ron Hubbard and Scientology/ Sea Org had no right to do that to me and my Father, no right at all.They say even now, we are all about keeping families together, they lie, they lie and they lie. Scientology is not about keeping families together, its all about breaking them up because having feelings about anything but Scientology is considered wrong.At the age of 10, LRH said to me personally that i shouldn't be concerned about my family as i had to think about the group- Scientology,that was what was important.That was my first inkling that there was something very wrong with being in the Sea Org.

8. Has there been an attempt at reconnection? Were there any conditions for reconnecting? If there was an attempt, did you succeed at reconnecting?
My Father found me, years later, unfortunately he was so mentally messed up due to harassment by the Sea Org, his daughter having been stolen from him, over auditing and left destitute with nothing and no one to turn to that i couldn't cope. Even though he had been away from the Sea Org by that time for several years he was still convinced they were after him.They screwed him up big time.31 years later and we have just reconnected again, its never going to be the relationship a Father and daughter should have, but its all we've got.A life time apart because Scientology thought it knew better.

9. If you are currently disconnected, would you like to reconnect? Do you believe it is possible, in your particular case? If not, why?
I also have a Step Mother and two brothers that i haven't seen since 1969, we weren't disconnected as such, it wasn't forced, but i tried to contact them several times through the Sea Org but never heard back from them, i don't know whether they are still in or not.I would dearly love to be in touch with them again if it is at all possible, its been so long i'm not sure if it is possible.

Would you like to make any additional comments?
As an adult and Mother i have always been disgusted and horrified at what L. Ron Hubbard and Scientology did to me and my Father,but convinced myself that it was a rarity, that our case was a tragedy that it was a one off. It was something we did, it was our fault, that my Father just upped and abandoned me on a ship in the mediteranean.Deep down i knew that couldn't be,but i couldn't discuss it with any one because i was told no one would believe me, and because it all sounded so damned crazy, i believed that.I now know it wasn't a one off, it is common practice,It is disgusting that a 'religion' can get away with doing this to people. It is against Human Rights and its got to be stopped.

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