Scientology - Disconnection Hurts


Friday, 29th February, 2008 08:00:16pm

Name or Alias: wynot (Tony Williams)
How long ago was your disconnection? Ten years
Are you a current member, an ex-member, or never a member?
never a member
Did you disconnect, or did someone disconnect from you?
The other person disconnected.
1. What is (or was) your relationship to the disconnected person?
He was a long time friend.

2. What were the circumstances surrounding the disconnection?
When my friend became a member of scientology, I began reading about it on the internet, and soon discovered alt.religion.scientology, a newsgroup created for open discussion of the organization. This was just after scientology's attacks on the newsgroup and its members began, and just before the story of Lisa McPherson became public. When younger I had been part of a group which counselled people leaving cults, specifically the Hare Krishna and Children of God cults, so I already had a built-in dislike of these phoney religions. When people on the newsgroup began discussing a world-wide picket for December 5th, 1997, I felt I had no choice but to picket the org's store here in Atlanta. So I put on my best suit, my aliens tie, and made a sign that said 'Scientology killed Lisa McPherson', and went to the org. I admit that I was frightened, having read how picketers in other cities had been attacked while picketing, but I felt I had no choice - somebody had to call them to account. I picketed for about half an hour, and very quickly had a cultie come to 'handle' me, but I refused to speak to her.

I learned later that this was about when my friend looked out the window, and went 'That's Tony!', so then they knew who I was.

Over the next few months I picketed regularly, and soon had others joining me. This led to my (soon to be x)friend attempting to intimidate/persuade our mutual friend ethercat into making me stop, which just made me more determined to continue speaking out, and led to her joining me in picketing. You may have already read the rest of this story on ethercat's interview.

3. Were you given a choice about disconnecting? Was there anything you could have done to avoid the disconnection? If so, please describe the choice involved or what you could have done. Do you now feel that you made the best decision?
I was given no choice, and believe nothing I could have done would have prevented the disconnection. Even if I were to have ceased speaking in public, and picketing, I could not have accepted my friend's participation in a group which I believed (and still believe) to be completely evil, and I could have never remained friends with someone who was contributing materially to such an organization. I still believe that becoming part of the critical movement was perhaps the best thing I have ever done, and that it was scientology which took my friend from me, and not my actions against this evil group. I regret the loss of our friendship, but would not change one bit of my actions.

4. Was a formal disconnection letter sent? If so, what did it say? If not, how was the disconnection communicated?
Yes. The morning after the March 13th picket in Atlanta, I received the following in the mail. It was dated the 11th, postmarked the 13th. I do not know if it was mailed before or after the picket.

'Dear Tony.
I am writing to you to make it clear and certain that I don't wish to have anything more to do with you. I don't wish to talk with you, see you or hear from you.
I am doing this because you have decided to denigrate my
church in public and with it myself and the people I work with and for whom I have the greatest respect. You do this based on information from a one sided attack without apparently even questioning the motives and intents of the people forwarding the attack. You do this without questioning me, supposedly your friend, for opposing information. And out of a city of millions, my supposed friend is one of three people publicly attacking my church.
This is outrageous to me. I won't have it and I don't need it.

>>>Handwritten and typed signatures omitted<<<

5. In what way has the disconnection affected your life?
It has made me ever more determined to speak against scientology at every chance, and to warn the uninformed against this group.

6. What were your feelings at the time about the disconnection?
This is the text of an open letter I sent to my former friend, and posted on the newsgroup alt.religion.scientology:

You will never read this. So you will never know that I am still your friend.

You looked out the window of the Church of Scientology, and saw me picketing. And all you saw was someone turned against you, and your great work. You lost sight of almost twenty years of friendship. If you thought at all about why I was doing this, you thought only in the terms allowed you; evil against good, with you on the side of good. My peaceful picket was a rejection of all that you now believe to be right. Maybe, if you had a generous moment, you imagined that I had been seduced by some enemy to attack you in this way.

I wasn't. I went out there with my sign knowing full well that it
would hurt you, and cost me your friendship. It did not make me happy. I really did not want to. But I knew that no one else was going to do it, and that it had to be done. The official policies of your so called church led directly to the death of Lisa McPherson, and I am convinced that they can lead to your death too. You have told me all about the wonderful, no-nutrition diet their chiropracter shill ( what kind of con-man dreamed up contact reflex analysis, anyway?) has you on. That scared me. You have talked about the super powers you have now, but I have seen a person who believes that the red lights do his bidding; yet still can wreck his car. How is that? What I see is someone who has lost contact with reality, who is no longer capable of
rational thought. That really scares me.

I know how your phony church treats people who dare to question them in any way. I thought that if I picketed, and your leaders tried to 'handle' me, maybe that would show you the truth about the pseudo-philosophy you have chosen. I thought about the guy who said that if it came to betraying a friend, or his country, he prayed he would have the courage to betray his country, and remembered a time when you agreed. I never thought that you would be the one sent to 'handle' me. And I really never thought that you would do it by threatening a mutual friend, ethercat, to try to intimidate her into making me stop protesting.

Guess what? It won't work. It is very difficult to coerce free people. Your masters know this; every dollar they spend trying to protect their power teaches them about it. Now you are going to learn the lesson. You want mastery over MEST? You want things to always go right? The horrible things your masters trained you to say (though they couldn't give you the courage to confront me directly) will not 'handle' this 'situation', nor make it go away. You said that your church has ways of handling people who attack them, and you used the phrase 'dead agent'. Free people do not like to be 'handled'. The coming disconnections are just the beginning. Your church is going to cost you every real friend you have. It won't matter to you, will it? It has already cost you your soul, and your sanity. What is love, after those?

I am still your friend. I do not want you to end up Like Lisa
Mcpherson. That is why I picketed. This time.

'Til all men are free;

7. What are your current feelings about the disconnection?
They have not changed.

8. Has there been an attempt at reconnection? Were there any conditions for reconnecting? If there was an attempt, did you succeed at reconnecting?
Please see ethercat's story.

9. If you are currently disconnected, would you like to reconnect? Do you believe it is possible, in your particular case? If not, why?
Only when my former friend has fully renounced scientology.

Would you like to make any additional comments?
I think I have said what I needed to say. I am grateful for this forum.

Disconnection Story Number: 5
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