Scientology - Disconnection Hurts


Sunday, 13th February, 2011 04:39:19am

Name or Alias: Chrisg
How long ago was your disconnection? 12 months
Are you a current member, an ex-member, or never a member?
never a member
Did you disconnect, or did someone disconnect from you?
The other person disconnected.
1. What is (or was) your relationship to the disconnected person?
Strong relationship, common law marriage (4 years)

2. What were the circumstances surrounding the disconnection?
Partner has been studying 'Human design system / Jovian archive' material for several years, aquired a mentor in 2007, Unbeknows to either of us this individual has a long involvement in CoS. Practical circumstances were that during a working break abroad, partner renewed contact with mentor, who undermined the basis of our relationship whilst it was most vulnerable, ie we were seperated geographically, and communication was dificult. Specifically the mentor warned of 'conditioning on 14th of February' (2009) and maintained the emotional assault until disconnection.

3. Were you given a choice about disconnecting? Was there anything you could have done to avoid the disconnection? If so, please describe the choice involved or what you could have done. Do you now feel that you made the best decision?
No, I was due to be with my partner the following week, that date was consistantly moved back.

4. Was a formal disconnection letter sent? If so, what did it say? If not, how was the disconnection communicated?
No, disconnection was by late night phone call simply stating 'it's over'

5. In what way has the disconnection affected your life?
We met each other the following week, agreed to talk further under less traumatic circumstances, whenever it appeared we could recover our situation, mentor appeared and undermined it.
Over the year this has proved highly destructive in Family, personal,career and financial terms.

6. What were your feelings at the time about the disconnection?
Disbelief, it came out of nowhere.

7. What are your current feelings about the disconnection?
As above, the circumstances at the end of 2010 were so positive, with so much good work done.

8. Has there been an attempt at reconnection? Were there any conditions for reconnecting? If there was an attempt, did you succeed at reconnecting?
There was an attempt during 2010, my partner ended up living under the same roof. Following contact with the mentor in November of that year there was a second disconnection, almost identical to the first, a 'snapping' moment

9. If you are currently disconnected, would you like to reconnect? Do you believe it is possible, in your particular case? If not, why?
I would very much like to reconnect, however, I believe that the degree of confusion caused by the Human design system / jovian archive material, interpreted via a scientologist makes that extremely unlikely.

Would you like to make any additional comments?
My partner was a vivacious, talented person, through our teamwork and creativity just realising her full potential as an individual. It is as if somebody turned the lights out or her just as she was seeing that for herself. To watch that happen, and to be helpless is a terrible experience.

Disconnection Story Number: 22
Total Disconnection Stories: 26
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