Scientology - Disconnection Hurts


Wednesday, 15th October, 2008 03:12:33pm

Name or Alias: Oshana
How long ago was your disconnection? 2.5 years ago
Are you a current member, an ex-member, or never a member?
Did you disconnect, or did someone disconnect from you?
The other person disconnected.
1. What is (or was) your relationship to the disconnected person?
He is my brother.

2. What were the circumstances surrounding the disconnection?
I was born and raised in Scientology, and chose to leave in my early 20s. I left fairly quietly because my parents and brother are still involved. My father in particular threatened me for many years with disconnection.
However, about 3 weeks before my wedding, I let a negative comment about Scientology slip to my brother. Many long, painful conversations followed with all of my family. A month after my wedding, my brother told me that as long as I had an objection to Scientology, he did not want me to be in my life.

3. Were you given a choice about disconnecting? Was there anything you could have done to avoid the disconnection? If so, please describe the choice involved or what you could have done. Do you now feel that you made the best decision?
The only choice I was given was to 'handle' my objection to Scientology. My brother insisted I read and accept some Church documents which were supposed to handle my objections and make me see Scientology as good. I read them, but could not agree. There was really nothing I could have done as I can't change the way I feel.

4. Was a formal disconnection letter sent? If so, what did it say? If not, how was the disconnection communicated?
Yes. This is the last email I ever received from my brother:
'I just don't want you to hold Scientology in a bad light. If you're not willing to look at it in a new unit of time and see the truth of it I'm afraid I don't want you to be a part of my life. I love you and I want you to do well but if you're so hard headed that you won't look at facts and compare them to what you believe are the facts, I believe that's insane and just being stupid. When you decide to be open to the truth let me know and I'll be there but until then don't write me or call me as I don't wish to be in comm with you if you won't make an effort. The ball's in your court.'

5. In what way has the disconnection affected your life?
Ironically, this experience has made me even more opposed to Scientology. Prior to my brother's disconnection, I was not happy about Scientology and my experiences with it, but I chose not to talk about it much or to read negative information on the internet about Scientology. Since then, I have learned so much more about the abuse that goes on in Scientology, and as a consequence have spoken out more and more.

6. What were your feelings at the time about the disconnection?
Devastated. I could not believe I lost my brother over this.

7. What are your current feelings about the disconnection?
Sad, and resigned. My husband and I are considering having children, and I dread the day when I may have to tell my children that they have an uncle who does not speak to us.

8. Has there been an attempt at reconnection? Were there any conditions for reconnecting? If there was an attempt, did you succeed at reconnecting?
There have been some half-hearted attempts through my parents; however, my parents are still in Scientology so they believe that the disconnection is at least partly my responsibility. I believe that if I gave up my objection to Scientology, my brother would talk to me again.

9. If you are currently disconnected, would you like to reconnect? Do you believe it is possible, in your particular case? If not, why?
I would love to have my brother back in my life. I miss him very much. As long as my family is involved in Scientology, I doubt that I will hear from him.

Would you like to make any additional comments?
I am so glad there are sites like this that are speaking out against the abuse that is Scientology's disconnection policy. I hope that speaking up will help others to keep from losing their families to Scientology.

Disconnection Story Number: 13
Total Disconnection Stories: 26
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