Scientology - Disconnection Hurts


Wednesday, 13th August, 2008 04:12:53pm

Name or Alias: Crystal Jordan
How long ago was your disconnection? 3 years
Are you a current member, an ex-member, or never a member?
never a member
Did you disconnect, or did someone disconnect from you?
The other person disconnected.
1. What is (or was) your relationship to the disconnected person?
He was my fiancee and the father of my (at the time) unborn child.

2. What were the circumstances surrounding the disconnection?
My fiancee for a long time had searched for acceptance. Our families were from a different cult-like church that we felt we didn't belong. He was always searching, and one day came to me and told me about Scientology. I wasn't interested at all, and later mentioned it to my father (who hadn't been in the cult I was raised in) who then started telling me about Scientology. I wasn't pregnant at this time.

When he left, I was about 3 months pregnant. He told me I could accept it, come with him and learn the Church practices, or that he was going to leave, but come back to take our child with him.

3. Were you given a choice about disconnecting? Was there anything you could have done to avoid the disconnection? If so, please describe the choice involved or what you could have done. Do you now feel that you made the best decision?
I was given a choice, and no, I wouldn't have. I do feel, and always felt, I have made the best decision.

4. Was a formal disconnection letter sent? If so, what did it say? If not, how was the disconnection communicated?
No, there was no formal letter sent. The disconnection was made before my child died. Even through his legal maneuvers, I had no contact with him, only his lawyers.

5. In what way has the disconnection affected your life?
I had to learn to deal without the only friend who knew how hard it was to grow up the way we did. I lost my best friend, my fiance, and the person I loved.

6. What were your feelings at the time about the disconnection?
Hurt, because this became more important than me and his family. Sad, because I believe this started the loss of my child (I will outline in the comments)

7. What are your current feelings about the disconnection?
Relieved, because if it hadn't have been then, it wouldn't been something else after.

8. Has there been an attempt at reconnection? Were there any conditions for reconnecting? If there was an attempt, did you succeed at reconnecting?
No reconnection attempts. Yes, I could reconnect if I decided to accept the Church.

9. If you are currently disconnected, would you like to reconnect? Do you believe it is possible, in your particular case? If not, why?
My reconnection would be conditional. If he wanted help leaving the Church, I would gladly help him. Sadly, I don't think it's possible. He's too far gone.

Would you like to make any additional comments?
I was harassed for the rest of my pregnancy. I went into premature labor due to the stress of his legal maneuvers to get the state to declare me an unfit parent, and to have the child placed in his care after birth. He was denied twice, as they saw no reason to declare me unfit, but the stress took its toll. I gave birth to a premature baby girl, who died less than a week later.

Disconnection Story Number: 12
Total Disconnection Stories: 26
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